The Inspirational Pattern…
You are dynamic and vibrant, and your inherent charisma and ability to motivate others take center stage. You navigate through challenges with a clear focus on positive action and unity, steering through life's transitions with enthusiasm and optimism.
However, in your drive to inspire and energize, it's crucial to remember the importance of checking in with your own emotional needs. Embracing this inspirational pattern doesn’t mean neglecting your feelings. Instead, it's about leveraging your natural ability to uplift others in a way that also honors your emotional well-being.
As you design your next chapter after parenting, keep in mind that your skill in rallying people is a strength, but so is your ability to be introspective and responsive to change. With personalized support and actionable steps, you can balance your engaging nature with self-care, confidently unlocking new opportunities and embracing your future with both vigor and depth.
Possible Careers for the Inspirational Pattern
Lifestyle Influencer/Blogger: Sharing stories and inspirations.
Creative Workshop Leader: Hosting sessions on art, writing, or digital media.
Women's Network Coordinator: Building communities for support and growth.
Personal Branding Coach: Helping women craft and share their stories.
Event Planner for Women's Retreats: Creating transformative experiences.
Podcast Host: Discussing women's issues, careers, and personal development.
Art Therapy Facilitator: Using creativity for healing and expression.
Social Entrepreneur: Addressing social issues with innovative solutions.
Fashion Stylist: Helping women express themselves through their wardrobe.
Women's Fiction Author: Writing stories that resonate and empower.
Motivational Speaker for Women: Inspiring change and confidence.
Non-Profit Community Outreach Manager: Focusing on women and children's welfare.
Cultural Ambassador: Promoting diversity and inclusion through art and dialogue.
Relationship Coach: Guiding women through personal development and connection.
Creative Director for Social Campaigns: Crafting campaigns that matter.
Understanding the Inspirational Pattern is about confronting the truths behind your actions. This isn’t about confining you within a category; it’s about illuminating the instinctive reactions that surface when pressures mount. Consider this not just a label, but a powerful tool for deepening your self-awareness.
This journey invites commitment and clarity. It’s about slicing through the confusion that may have blurred your decisions and relationships. Recognizing your Inspirational Pattern serves as a personal GPS in a world brimming with distractions, guiding you back to your purpose.
Continue reading to dive into an exploration of the Decisive Pattern with straightforward strategies for your personal growth. Embrace this chance to grow, refine, and redefine what purpose means to you.
The Gifts of the Inspirational Pattern
Energetic, enthusiastic, optimistic, and people-oriented
Radiate a sense of warmth and approachability
Masters of communication
Charismatic
Highly attuned to the needs and motivations of others
Skilled at inspiring and motivating people
Excellent at creating and nurturing relationships towards a shared vision
Focused on creating positive experiences and environments
Strong right-brain functioning, high in emotional and creative intelligence
Quick to adapt to social situations and engage with new ideas
How the Inspirational Pattern might show itself …
You feel uneasy or disconnected when not actively engaging with others.
You fear being perceived as uninteresting or unimportant.
Thoughts like, “I need to be the life of the party” or “I can't be alone” might become prevalent.
You may struggle with spending time in solitude, feeling more comfortable in social settings.
Your focus is often on social dynamics and engagement, sometimes neglecting your own deeper needs.
You work hard to be recognized as charismatic and influential.
You might find yourself prioritizing socializing over deep, introspective work.
You have a strong desire to be liked and admired.
You can be overly accommodating, sometimes at the expense of your authenticity.
You place high value on your social instincts and ability to connect.
Where did the Inspirational Pattern come from?
The Inspirational Pattern often emerges from a phase in your life where social acceptance and connection were paramount, yet you encountered challenges in these areas. This might have been a period when your social skills or ability to connect were put to the test, leading to a deep-seated need to be recognized and appreciated.
Your sequence might have been:
I reach out socially → I face rejection or disconnection → I intensify my efforts to engage → I feel more socially anxious or overextended.
This need-for-acceptance sequence can arise for various reasons. Perhaps you were in an environment where social interaction was highly valued or necessary for emotional support. You might have faced situations where being alone or independent was uncomfortable or seen as undesirable. It's also possible that early experiences of positive reinforcement for being outgoing and sociable reinforced a belief that social engagement was the key to happiness and success. Over time, this could lead to an overreliance on social validation as a coping mechanism.
As a result, you may have developed a pattern where your focus turned to constantly engaging with others and seeking external validation. This is a defense mechanism to shield against feelings of loneliness or insignificance, reinforcing a pattern of seeking connection and affirmation in the pursuit of personal fulfillment and social success.
I’m right there with you…
Like you, I've navigated numerous life transitions as a military spouse, constantly adapting to new circumstances and communities. These experiences have fueled my dedication to ensure that no one feels isolated as they discover new paths in life.
Now in my 50s, I am embarking on a fresh journey myself, returning to school to earn a degree in counseling. This step is part of my ongoing quest to redefine my identity beyond my roles as a parent and partner, and to engage deeply with what truly excites me now.
I understand the desire for a life that's not only fulfilling but also exciting and meaningful—especially at this stage. It's about crafting a vibrant, fulfilling next chapter, rich with adventures, personal growth, and connections that we perhaps never had the time or space to explore before.
Join me in this journey of rediscovery and transformation. Together, we can embrace the possibilities that await us in our next chapter, driven by our newfound passions and a clearer understanding of our purpose.
Recognizing when you are in an Inspirational Pattern
Identifying when you are in an Inspirational Pattern is essential for deep self-awareness. You may notice a tendency to seek social approval or prioritize being liked at the cost of expressing your true feelings. There might also be a discomfort with solitude, with a persistent feeling that your worth is measured by your social influence, driving you toward a constant pursuit of acceptance. This can feel like wearing a mask, where you excel in engaging and entertaining, sometimes sacrificing your authentic self-connection.
Personal Growth in an Inspirational Pattern
Personal growth within the Inspirational Pattern means intentionally shifting from seeking external validation to nurturing internal understanding. Start by valuing your own emotions and thoughts, independent of social contexts. Embrace periods of solitude and cultivate personal interests. Through practices like journaling or quiet contemplation, discover your genuine motivations and aspirations. As you balance social interactions with self-care, you'll find yourself less dependent on others' approval and more confident in your unique identity.
Transforming the Inspirational Pattern
The transformation of the Inspirational Pattern involves evolving from being predominantly social to becoming a well-rounded, self-aware individual. This change demands patience, self-discovery, and the courage to engage with parts of yourself that extend beyond social engagements. Pursue activities that enhance your self-reliance and encourage introspection. Develop relationships that value your true self, not just the persona you project. Balancing your sociable nature with personal insight and independence leads to a richer, more satisfying life experience. This transformation doesn’t mean losing your social appeal; rather, it’s about deepening it with authentic self-expression, culminating in a life filled with meaningful achievements and genuine relationships.
Feeling lost now that your kids are grown? Well mama, there is a whole lot of time between 40 and finished!
IT'S TIME TO PUT YOURSELF ON THE PRIORITY LIST.
Navigating your next steps after the kids are grown can be hard. That's where I step in. Think of me as your guide, someone who gets that sometimes, the very success that propelled you in your career seems a world away when you have been focused on everyone else but you.
Let's embark on this journey together to clear the fog. I'll help you spot those hidden triggers, the ones that sneak up on you and keep you stuck. Understanding is power, and with it, you can start to shift from reactive to proactive, from anxious to secure and thriving in your purpose.
I'm here to show you how to break free from those survival patterns that cloud your motherhood and sense of self. We'll work on healing at the core, so you can both step into the present—into a calmer, more connected way of being. You've got a wealth of resources and resilience within you. Let's tap into that and make your second act one that’s full of life and purpose!